Why did we move to Rhode Island?

We moved to the state of Rhode Island in the region of New England after 12 years of living in Kentucky. 12 years was enough time for us to feel established economically and socially should we have chosen to stay, and we did feel quite comfortably settled in Kentucky for a good many years, especially when our children were small. During most of our time in Kentucky, we never thought we would ever move to Rhode Island. I had no notion of Rhode Island as a state and very little awareness and knowledge of the region of New England.

The United States is such a large country, its size being that of a continent, so oftentimes it is almost impossible for the busy people here to conceive of the realities outside their cities, states and regions. Unless one travels widely across the country both horizontally and vertically, ordinary Americans are not usually conscious of the largely divergent geographical features, customs and lifestyles existing in the different regions of America. For those who are aware of this diversity in landscape and culture existing in America, this singular feature offers a unique opportunity to relocate according to preferences in employment, climate, culture, lifestyle and cost of living.

A knowledgeable and well-traveled friend of ours, upon learning of our move, commented that it was a “big culture shift.” It indeed is. We made this major move from the Southern region of the United States to New England for many reasons ranging from education, employment, climate, environment and lifestyle to friendship.

Clean environment and clear air

Cleanliness is not one of the priorities for many people in the state of Kentucky. We lived in an apartment complex in Lexington when first moving to Kentucky from Vietnam. Many people living there have dogs and they would take their dogs out once or twice a day. They didn’t bother to clean up after their dogs, and the common grassy area was covered with dog feces. In Campbellsville, after some years of living there, we noticed that not only did people not clean up after their own dogs in parks and on walking trails, they also started littering everywhere from parking lots and parks to highways. It was disheartening for me at the time to see such a low level of civility and environmental awareness in my state of residence.

When we first moved to Kentucky, Spring and Fall were lovely and enjoyable seasons with cool, crisp air and gentle rain. Having just relocated from tropical Saigon, we welcomed the indoor coziness enabled by Winter and felt quite refreshingly excited whenever it snowed. J1 especially loved playing with snow. Summer was typically hot and humid, and winter could be quite cold, snowy and icy. I find the summer there particularly oppressive as the sky would turn hazily grey and the heavy air would cause dizziness and clamminess. As the years passed during our stay in Kentucky, the weather deteriorated into irritating windiness in all seasons, very stiflingly muggy summer and tornado as well as flooding threats during half the year. I happen to be one of those who are deadly terrified by tornadoes. Every time there was a tornado watch or warning, I felt so much anxiety that I could barely function. Therefore, after a few years of living with frequent tornado threats, we contemplated a major move vertically across the country much further away from the tornado regions of Midwest and Southeast.

Convenience of living – smaller is better

I believe that quality of life doesn’t just depend how much money one can earn but also depend on how much unstructured time, both free time and quality time, one can have. Having lived in the United States for over 15 years in total, I have witnessed regular Americans’ excessive love for cars and how driving takes up a lot of time during people’s days. I have decided that the typical American lifestyle centered on cars and driving is not for me. I would prefer to spend more time at home and in nature than in cars. I also would prefer to spend time doing things I enjoy rather than expend most of my energy trying to get from one location to another.

Rhode Island is the smallest state in the country, so it doesn’t take as long to drive within this state as in others with the exception of driving within or through Providence during work hours. However, like many big cities, Providence doesn’t have the quintessentially charming and quaint characteristics of a New England place. Except for some historic and rather high-end areas where locals enjoy fashionable shopping venues, art galleries, trendy eateries, boutique spas and especially European-style bakeries, Providence is a place to put up with for the working-class populace.

Concerning driving, typical Rhode Islanders consider 30 to 45 minutes to be a long time for driving and I would completely agree with that. There are some downsides to being in a geographically small area as public places can become crowded and parking spaces are very few, which requires planning if one wishes to avoid crowds or to find parking. But that is a lesser evil than daily long commutes and prolonged driving time on a regular basis. Extended car time leads to a sedentary lifestyle and unconscious avoidance of actual living with respect to spending calm, quality time in nature, with loved ones and doing enjoyable activities.

Colors of nature

Winter